Table of Contents

Table of Contents Lighthouse Leader Manual2016-08-17T15:42:41-05:00

Summary of Training Materials

Introduction to Lighthouse Ministry

Our Mission Statement

Our Strategy (how we do what we do)

  • Celebrate at a weekend service.
  • Grow in a small group.
  • Serve on a ministry team.

Lighthouse Ministry Core Standards

  • Biblical Purpose for Lighthouses
  • Core Standards

Lighthouse Ministry Roles

  • Elders
  • Lighthouse Leaders
  • Lighthouse Member

Our Philosophy and Values

  • Elder-Governed
  • Pastor-Led
  • Bible-Based
  • Outreach-Focused
  • Lay-Empowered
  • Large-Group Celebrations
  • Small-Group Orientation

Lighthouse Objectives

  1. Shepherding/Care
  2. Prayer
  3. Fellowship and Sharing
  4. Teach/Grow
  5. Discipleship
  6. Evangelism

FFC Core Beliefs

Guidelines for First Family Care

  • Lighthouses Are the Hub of Pastoral Care

Guidelines for First Family Benevolence

Seven Advantages to Coordinated Lighthouses

  1. They Increase the Educational Impact
  2. They Pull in the Marginally Interested
  3. They Reach More People
  4. They Sharpen the Church-Wide Focus
  5. They Mainstream New Believers
  6. They Eliminate Idiot Questions
  7. They Help with Leadership Recruitment

FFC’s Panorama of Scripture

Lighthouse Ministry Structure

Overview of Lighthouse Structure

  • Healthy church defined by relationships
  • Structure not an end in itself

Elder/Coach

  • Personal Ministry
  • Lighthouse Ministry
  • Questions for Lighthouse Leaders

Lighthouse Leader

  • Personal Ministry
  • Lighthouse Ministry
  • Ministry And Leadership Skills
  • Relationship with God
  • Relationship to the Church
  • Relationships with Others
  • Administrative
  • Small-group Dynamics
  • Personal Relational Skills
  • Knowledge Of the Word
  • Knowledge of the Church
  • Knowledge Of the Community

Lighthouse Co-leader

  • Personal Ministry
  • Lighthouse Ministry
  • Requirements

Lighthouse Host

  • Personal Characteristics
  • Duties within the Lighthouse

Lighthouse / GO Team Partnership.

  • Why a Lighthouse / GO Team Partnership?

Lighthouse Ministry Dynamics

The Nature of Shepherding

  • The Lighthouse Leader as Lay Shepherd
  • Marks of a Biblical Leader
  • Biblical leaders have a Christian purpose
  • Biblical leaders have a Christian methodology
  • Biblical leaders have a Christian understanding of people
  • The Character of an Effective Shepherd
  • Warmth
  • Transparency
  • Active Listening
  • Serving
  • Get People To Deal With God, Not You
  • Aspects of Shepherding

The First Meeting

  • Tip 1: Pray for God’s blessing
  • Tip 2: Understand the context of your first meeting
  • Tip 3: Prepare the meeting with an apprentice
  • Tip 4: Prepare the environment
  • Tip 5: Warm up the group with an icebreaker
  • Tip 6: Share the nuts and bolts of a small group
  • Tip 7: Allow time for questions
  • Tip 8: Follow up the first meeting and invite everyone to the next one
  • Tip 9: Build a scriptural foundation
  • Tip 10: Aim high

Scripture’s Role in Your Group

  1. Use Scripture as the Authoritative Source
  2. Use Scripture Appropriately
  3. Memorize Scripture

Basic Listening Skills

Advice from an Experienced Leader

  • What are the three most important things a new leader should keep in mind?
  • What are the most important character traits of a small group leader?
  • How can I contribute to a welcoming atmosphere in the group?
  • How can I get the group off to a good start in the first meeting?
  • How much should I talk and how much should I let group members contribute?
  • How can I keep the discussion on track when it wanders?
  • What if the discussion wanders to a place more fruitful than the curriculum?
  • How can I help shy people open up and contribute to the group?
  • What do I do with the person who dominates the conversation?
  • What can I do when someone becomes disruptive or rude?
  • How can I build prayer and spiritual formation into my group’s life?
  • How do I measure success in my group?
  • What has been your biggest surprise as a leader?
  • What has been your biggest continuing challenge?
  • How can I build and keep confidence as a group leader?

Marks of Leadership Success

  • Shared Responsibilities
  • Offering Hospitality
  • Connecting Each Session
  • Maturing Spiritually
  • Growing Relationally

Signs of a Healthy Group

  • Inward
  • Forward
  • Outward
  • Onward
  • Leader

Small-group Problem Solving

  • Dealing with Criticism
  • Types of Disruptive Behavior
  • How to Confront Disruptive Behavior
  • Answering Tough Questions
  • Group Conflict

Take Your Group Deeper

  • Confession: Remove the Masks
  • Application: Groups as Schools of Life
  • Accountability: Stand on the Scale
  • Guidance: Decision-Making in Groups
  • Encouragement: Embrace Each Other

10 Hospitality Hints

  1. Prayer.
  2. Plan ahead.
  3. Give good instructions.
  4. Keep group size small.
  5. Greet people when they arrive.
  6. Remembering the individuals.
  7. Show a servant’s heart.
  8. Direct the meeting.
  9. Avoid favoritism.
  10. Bring the evening to an end.

Hosting with Excellence

  1. Be prepared.
  2. Greet everyone warmly.
  3. Strike up a conversation.
  4. Be sure you are well supplied.
  5. Pay attention to the details.

Common Obstacles of a Small Group Host

  • Time
  • The Meal
  • Childcare
  • All the Rest

Advice from an Experienced Host

  • Tell us a little bit about your small group.
  • How do you split up the time?
  • And what about location—does the group meet in your home?
  • You mentioned that several couples in the group have children. How do you handle childcare?
  • What are your main responsibilities with the small group?
  • So different people bring food each week?
  • What’s something you’ve learned after hosting a group for several years that you wish you’d known when you started?
  • What were some of the other challenges that have popped up when you host the group in your home?
  • It sounds like the two of you have been doing this for several years now, but what got you started?
  • And what do you enjoy most about hosting your group?

The Childcare Conundrum

  • Overview of common options
  • Here are some common options when a babysitter is involved.
  • Here are some common options when childcare is arranged within the small group.
  • How to build a life-changing children’s small group?
  • Sharing a Meal

Creating a Great Small Group Atmosphere

  • Sight
  • Sound
  • Smell
  • Taste
  • Touch

Lighthouse Leader Resources

First Night Agenda

  • Make Your First Night Great
  • Three Essential Parts of Your Evening Agenda

Lighthouse Roster

Lighthouse Prayer Sheet

Lighthouse Food Sign-up Sheet

Lighthouse Leader Agreement

Lighthouse Profile

Elder Evaluation (Per Semster) 

Lighthouse Evaluation (Per Semester)